Nutrition and exercise are key to a healthy lifestyle and it’s a lifestyle change we must make. However, sometimes things happen. I was just diagnosed with breast cancer and my surgery is the 24th of March. I’m having a double mastectomy but, thank the Lord, my insurance covers cosmetic surgery so I’ll hopefully come out of this looking better than before.
Walking is excellent to start getting in good shape and to lose weight. Start out walking just a little ways then increase your distance a little more everyday. Over time you’ll be walking miles. I also suggest you download a step app such as Pacer, but there are many, and once that’s done put your earphones on to your favorite music and bounce to the beat while getting in your steps.
Steps are being counted and once you’ve reached a comfortable distance and you’re happy with it, add some yoga to your routine then strength training. Over time you’ll be stronger, healthier and happier.
Get to it! You’ll be so glad that you did. I know I am. It’s been a long road but I’ve gone from fat to fit, other than the cancer, in a period of a year. I know that seems like a long time but I started feeling the benefits almost immediately. Even though I have breast cancer I am much stronger and healthier because of my lifestyle change and I still feel great! I am not going to let a little thing like this bring me down or alter my lifestyle. It’s amazing how one’s thinking changes when one is fit. I am strong and I’ll get through this like it’s just a little ol’ thing that anyone can go through.
Should, would, could, did!
Over the last 6 years I’ve learned that there are many like myself, men and women with MS, that find themselves in the dating game again. It’s not easy especially if you’re new to it and in your 40’s or 50’s in this day and age. It can be very scary for women and worrisome for men. There are so many questions that need to be answered but one question plagued me. It has been a long time since my divorce and in all that time I haven’t been with a man sexually. Even though I am physically active, my big question was, can I perform? Like many women my age with MS, I do not secrete a natural lubricant anymore so would it be painful? Would I enjoy it? Would I be able to put myself in that position? Could I have intercourse at all? The answer to all of the above questions is YES, with the right person.
I’ve learned many things in the past couple of weeks about myself and I must say that although this can be a scary process it is also quite liberating. During the last few years of my marriage sex became a painful duty that I felt I had to perform. I became the queen of excuses instead of discussing the problems and issues I was having with my husband. Anyways, one thing lead to another and I became a dried up, lonely, middle-aged, divorced MSer with no clue! I’m not saying that I never went on dates but my dates usually consisted of dinner, boring conversation and then again more excuses. That is, until I met the right man to explore the possibilities with and find solutions and answers to all of my questions. Ladies and gentlemen, there are people out there that are patient, giving and knowledgeable in the art of love. You only have to experience it once, if done properly, to find out that you’re as sexy and lovable as anyone else on this planet.
Ladies, demand patience and time and communicate with your partner, let him know what feels good to you. Gentlemen, take your time, ask questions and be gentle. Everyone, slow down, enjoy the touch of your partner and do to your partner what feels good to you or what you think would feel good like slowly caressing the shoulders of your partner or massaging the lower back and base of the spine. These are just suggestions. The key is to communicate exactly to one another what you want and what feels good and don’t just accept an attempt, correct your partner and tell him or her again what and how to do it. If your partner is worth their salt they’ll be eager to please as you will be.
Remember, no stress, relax, get comfortable and have a good time.
I haven’t written in a while. I had a very bad scare. My son was hospitalized for a month and he was in ICU in critical condition for over 2 weeks. After a month he was finally discharged and I brought him home but there is still a lot of work to be done for him to get back to his old self.
What I’ve learned; life is precious and one doesn’t realize just how important it is until there’s the possibility of losing a child. I have a friend that actually lost her son and until now I couldn’t understand her pain but now I understand a little better. I thought life was precious when I gave birth to my 3 beautiful children but not until I almost lost my son then he was given back to me did I truly learn that life is a gift and we need to celebrate life everyday!
I’m blessed. I’m in remission and feel great, my son was returned to me from near death and my children are healthy and happy. The sun is shinning, I’ve been on my morning walk and all is right in my world. So, what can I tell you that will help everyone? I guess the old adage holds true, “live life to the fullest.” “Live life one day at a time and make the best of each and every minute.” These words of wisdom never struck me as hard as they do now and I finally understand it. Don’t wait until something life altering happens to you and try to live by these words as often as you can.
Dedicated to my friend, Gerri.
Christmas…we are rushing around, looking for the right sales and trying to purchase all that we need for family and friends. I usually start shopping in June on the internet taking advantage of all the summer deals that they have going on but that doesn’t mean I’m not still in a mad rush come December. So, I’m taking a reality check. What does everyone really want? Can I make some of my gifts? Can I promise more of my time? Can I just set a date to take them out to eat at their favorite restaurant? The answer to all of these questions is YES! I can do all of these things and my family and friends will be happy to receive any and all of them. Don’t get me wrong, they are still receiving gifts that I’ve bought but for my friends I’ve made gifts and I know they’ll love them.
You see, it’s the act of giving that we love and it’s the act of receiving that they love. It doesn’t matter what it is as long as one puts thought into the gift that they’re giving to that individual. The definition of Christmas is the celebration of the birth of Christ. Let’s not forget that. We should concentrate on that if we are Christians and not so much on how much we can spend on loved ones. It is a time to come together, give thanks and praise God. A time for family to unite and spend time together perhaps with a fine dinner or just getting together, ordering Chinese food and watching old Christmas movies.
It’s our time that’s so valuable so make time for those you love. Have a little party with a $5 limit on a gift that can be given to a name pulled from a hat or something. Make it a fun time to be had by all because it’s you that everyone wants a little piece of. Make the best of this holiday and share a little part of yourself. That is the best gift one can give to others.
I realized that I live in a bubble. Certain people and my dog are in my bubble but I’ve got to burst this soap apparition and let the world in. I decided to do that when I started this blog among other things. It has been so worth it. I have made new friends and my world has opened up. I’ve learned that people are inherently good and very worth knowing and by letting them into my life they can become life long friends.
Usually when I go on my daily walks, I’m in my bubble with my earphones on blaring music as I walk to the beat with my trusty k-nine companion by my side. Because I’m so distanced from the world and I’m at least deaf from it, I rely solely on my dog’s reaction. Yesterday, as we passed a regular on the trail, my dog started wagging his tail and looked like he was happy to see someone he knew. I was intrigued. I took my earphone out of one ear so I could say hello. The woman stopped her jogging for a sec and gave my dog a treat. I thought that was so sweet and thoughtful.
We started a conversation and she told me that she remembered me when I was wheeling the trail in my chair and wondered why I was walking now. I told her the good news about my being in remission and she hugged me! A total stranger treated my dog and gave me a hug! I thanked her and she was on her way again. She had been in a rhythm and wanted to get back to it and I too wanted to be on my way because I was a little taken aback and had to think for a minute.
I came to the conclusion that I must burst this bubble and open up. No one is going to hurt me. Besides I have my big-ass-wolf-looking dog to protect me if someone were to try,
and he’s a good judge of character. I’ve learned: open up! Be yourself! Have faith! Trust in those around you! And thank the good lord for a good dog I can rely on!
Thanksgiving was a wonderful day for me and made me think about everything I’m grateful for. My son said grace for the first time and it was extremely inappropriate but factual. I couldn’t even find fault in that or my exhusband’s crude jokes! Yes, my ex-husband and I are good friends and we spent this holiday with one another because it brought joy to our children. I am pleased that I could do that for them. Now they want every holiday to be like Thanksgiving! Sorry kiddos but I’m all cooked out after this year. I prepared a feast which took me three days to cook. I couldn’t have done it without the help of my beautiful daughters but even so, it wore me out! I think for Christmas we’ll order Chinese food, chill and watch old Christmas movies. That sounds benign enough, as long as I can just veg, eat and nap throughout the day. Who am I kidding? Nap? Me? That’s not going to happen, it just sounded good.
So, I’m grateful for, of course, my 3 children and their significant others. Let’s get that said and out-of-the-way. I’m grateful that my natural hair isn’t so white that my red hair color turns pink when I apply it. I’m grateful my dog doesn’t bite me anymore and has stopped humping everything in sight. Snip, snip. I’m grateful that I can get around on my own steam and not have to rely on a hover round. I’m grateful for the blue sky and the brownish green grass. I’m grateful for technology for it’s made it possible for me to date. I’m grateful for up-beat music because it aids me in getting in my step counts. And, I’m grateful for my dad, sista, and grandmother who’s as old as balls but still stays more active than I’ll ever be.
What are you grateful for?
People come and go in our lives so, it’s best to get to know as many people as one can. I’ve found that there are many wonderful people on line. I’ve met men and women both young and old. So far, everyone that I’ve chosen to continue to communicate with have turned out to be gems, diamonds in the rough if you will. These fabulous people have encouraged me and make me feel needed and important. Some I have met personally, some I’ll meet one day and others I’ll probably never get a chance to meet but it’s all good!
The best way to meet new friends is to download a social app concerning your favorite things to do. Also, if you are single, on-line dating is another way to meet people. The great thing about this is that you can screen people before you get to know them or give out your phone number. What’s so wonderful about these apps is that they all have a blocker. So, if someone is a little too much for you just block them.
First, download an app that applies to one of your favorite things to do. One of my favorite things is working out so I have an app that is specific for that and it has the social media aspect that I like so much. Take your time once on an app. Feel things out first, then follow the people you admire. Once they follow you back you’ll be able to start up a genuine conversation about the subject that brought you to this app. That’s a good way to make friends especially if one is homebound. But, to be clear, never give out personal information to anyone. No one is important enough to be privy to that sort of thing, this includes Social Security number, Maiden name, birthday and address.
Be responsible and careful and one can create all kinds of friendships. It’s totally worth it! This is where one can be themselves and not have to worry about social norms. Some of my closest friendships were made from social apps. I highly recommend you give it a try but give it time and feel people out. There are so many people to meet, be choosy. It’s very healthy for the mental psyche. To your health and happy hunting.